I wanted to call this post "redemption," but figured after my last several churchie posts, it would give off the wrong impression. This is the redemption of my husband. The nice thing was that I didn't even have to say anything and he knew he was in serious need. If you have been reading, you know that for our 19th anniversary we spent in laid up in bed recovering from surgery. Then for my 40th birthday I spent all but dinner alone. There were no gifts for either occasion. In fairness we had a mutual agreement for our anniversary that our gifts were our copays. There, however, was no such agreement for my birthday.
Nathan is not a plan ahead kinda guy. This is what I signed up for when I married him, I knew what I was getting into. I've been through undergrad, med school, residency, starting a practice etc... with him in the last 19 years. There is always some reason that he can't plan for or think about special occasions. I used to just go by myself something and toss it at him and ask him to at least wrap it. I would say that the last 6 or 7 years he's been making more of an effort....and he's got great office staff that have my back. :0)
He's actually been spoiling me with trips. We have made it a tradition to go to CA in June for the past 4 or 5 years to celebrate the anniversary and my birthday. He's also taken me to Hawaii 5 times. Seriously can't complain. He works 60 plus hours a week. Every single week. That's not a rough week, that's normal. He had to make a new goal this year to try and eat dinner with us 2x a week. I'll let you in on a little pet peeve of mine......women complaining about how often their husband had to work 1 week out of the year. Seriously, just don't! You are singing your sad song to the wrong gal.
Anyway, the hubs had me used to a new normal when it came to my birthday, so when this year came around, and it was a pretty hideous number, I was significantly bummed that it was such a nonevent. Especially when everyone kept asking me how amazing my birthday had been. I did do the one and only thing that mattered to me and that was going to the temple to do sealings for my ancestors. It was the only thing I wanted to do and I wasn't budging on it.....which is how I ended up going by myself. :o)
Finally on Wed Nathan took pity on me and let me know that I had a surprise coming this weekend. Thank goodness, or it was going to be a very long year! I had to attend the open house on Wed for his new office and his office manager was telling me how sick he was over my birthday and taking it out on all the staff. Remorse, that's a good sign.
On Friday he got home from work and had me pack a bag because I wasn't coming home until Saturday. We stayed at this totally cute former mental hospital turned hotel in downtown Abq. It was seriously cute. I had even forgot to bring stuff to wash my face and they had stuff there in the bathroom for me. How awesome is that? I've been to some fancy hotels and the've never had face cleaning cloths. It's the little things that make me happy. This morning we went and had a delicious couples massage.....it was Nate's 2nd massage of his life....it's just not his thing, but it's mine.....now that's true love.
So, after all these years. When all hope and love seemed lost. Nate pulled it off. I said to him this morning "you really do love me" he said "of course I do silly." Too bad Nate doesn't have a blog...then you could hear about all the ways I mess up ;o) Luckily he gives me opportunities to redeem myself as often as I give them to him and that's how you stay married.
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